How to have fun while losing weight…

There is a fascinating post on Reddit here:

I cannot balance losing weight and having fun

His opening paragraph reads like this:

Every f***ing time I’ve tried to lose weight I feel like it eventually all gets ruined because I reach this point where I’m like, f*** it I just want to have fun and be able to do things that all the other people my age are doing. Boozy brunch on the weekends, going out to dinner, pub trivia, going to the pizza barcade, getting drunk at home playing board games with friends, watching movies or the game, going to music festivals, going to breweries/wineries. Things that most mid twenties people like to do. Unfortunately all these things involve FOOD and ALCOHOL. I just don’t have the self control to be able to go to these types of places and not partake. I recognize that I don’t have that level of self control yet

His last sentence is important, and shows a level of self-awareness that is powerful. It also points the way toward the future. Eventually, OP should/will develop that level of self control.

One of the responses is also incredibly interesting:

I’m overweight as well. When I was a lot heavier, I saw everyone eating crisps, and nuts, etc, so it was like an ok for me to eat the same things.

But, now that I’m counting my calories, I spoke to some of my friends. And I found the following:

  • they are male and a lot taller, and they may eat more
  • they are female like me, but actually don’t eat as much as I do, and if they do eat as much on social gatherings, they are on a strict diet on the days between.
  • they have more body movement, they go swimming, or do zumba. – they ride their bikes to work, sometimes even up to 1hour of cycling (which is a lot in Belgium), so even at their desk job, they still have excercise each day.
  • one of my friends, probably just has very good genes, she’s lean, she doesn’t excercise, doesn’t ride bike to work, has desk job, is a tiny woman, eats the most unhealthy food all the time and is still skinny. She just appologized to me when my jaw dropped as she told me this 😀

So basically, your friends are on a pattern that makes them eat less calories compared to what they burn. May be related to gender, body length, general activity, inbetween dieting…

I’m finding it hard as well to not touch crisps etc on social gatherings. So what I’ll do when I know on saturday and sunday I have a gathering: I’ll eat less during the week.

One important point here is that OP is guilty of a sampling error. He is only observing his friends sporadically, when they are out having fun, and ignoring their day-to-day habits. Rather than observing what his friends do every day of the week, and understanding the overall pattern of their habits, he is only observing their tendencies on Saturday night. For example, if someone eats at a calorie deficit all week so he can “go wild” and binge-eat all weekend, then that can work. Or if someone is jogging 4 miles every day while eating what appears to be “a lot”, the exercise is offsetting the calories. And some (small number) of people really do have “good genes” that give them a higher metabolism – well, they lucked out. It is also age related. My teenagers eat constantly, and with abandon, and are absurdly lean. That has to do with the fact that they are: a) active and b) growing.

Also note my situation. The situation I find myself in is: I started my weight loss adventure 100 pounds overweight. This is absurd, ridiculous. And yet, over time, there is no denying that I ate so much that I gained an excess of 100 pounds. If I am now going to lose 100 pounds, I am starting at a gigantic disadvantage compared to someone who has not “let himself go”, or however you want to express my situation. I am going to have to do some extra work, over and above the norm, to get back down to a healthy weight. This is just how life works, on many fronts. [For example, if I get deeply in debt, the only way to get out of debt is to spend less money for a period of time and use the money to repay the debts. During this time of repayment, relative to my peers, I am going to look “poor” and “insanely frugal” compared to my friends, because I am applying the money I have to the debt. This is just life – it is the only way to get out of debt.]

What I have found, personally, is that my weight situation eventually became so absurd, and so uncomfortable, and so unhealthy, and so ugly, that my mindset shifted. It is no longer “a burden” or “un-fun” to lose weight. It now feels fantastic to be losing weight! Every day, with every incremental loss of weight, my life is getting better. The reward for losing weight far outweighs any benefit gained from eating like a pig on Saturday night. When I get back down to a healthy weight – which will happen in a finite amount of time – then I can find ways to remain at the healthy weight while still having fun on Saturday. Which is basically what every other thin person is already doing! Every thin person (ignoring the genetically gifted and the young) has some kind of conscious (e.g. a food diary) or unconscious (e.g. jogging every day) bag of techniques they are using to maintain their calorie intake at a healthy level. They are just doing this calorie juggling invisibly. If you ask, you can learn the techniques they use to maintain their thinness.


How to Lose Weight on Vacation! My week 6 status report

Week 6 went great! I lost 3.3 pounds in one week WHILE ON VACATION, and have lost a total of 25.5 pounds in 6 weeks.

The best part is that I lost 3.3 pounds WHILE ON VACATION. I don’t know about you, but for me, vacation is usually a complete minefield and a complete disaster weight wise – vacation is a time when I gain a lot of weight. And the reason is obvious: generally on vacation the Brain family tends to eat out a lot. And when I eat out, I tend to eat way too many calories. And it is soooo easy to do, because restaurant food tends to be loaded in calories. So this video explains how I managed to go on vacation AND lose weight simultaneously.

Also can see real progress on measurements now:

  • Waist: From 46 inches to 43 inches in 6 weeks
  • Stomach: From 49.5 inches to 46 inches in 6 weeks
  • Neck: From 21 inches to 19.5 inches in 6 weeks

This kind of progress is exciting! If you would like to lose weight with me, see this page:

Come lose weight yourself at MBthin!

The “how to low-carb diet” video is now available!

If you have ever thought to yourself “I MUST LOSE WEIGHT”, but you have not had a lot of success with it, take a look at the low-carb approach, as described in this video:

In Exercise 3 we talked about food diaries and how they can help you gain control of your calorie intake. But for many people (me included!) it simply is not possible to run a calorie deficit every day with just a food diary.

What is working for me, in addition to a food diary, is a low-carb diet. For me, a low-carb diet has 3 big advantages:

  1. It cuts my appetite way back, so I experience many fewer hunger pangs and cravings,
  2. Now with my appetite under control, I can use a food diary and run a calorie deficit, and
  3. If I can run a calorie deficit, I do lose weight!

And I am able to lose weight fast – 20.4 pounds in 4 weeks, for example (to be fair, half of this is water weight, a nice side effect of low carb dieting).

If you would like to try a low-carb diet yourself, watch this video and then see:

How to Low-Carb Diet


“How can I help my mother lose weight” – a message from a concerned son

I received this message today from Jason:

Excited to track your progress! I need to find a way to coach my mom towards a similar weight loss approach. Any ideas?

Here is my response:

Well… let’s first understand that this is a little bit like asking an alcoholic to quit drinking – The alcoholic needs to make the decision to change. So how do we help your mother make the decision? One way might be to sit down with her and work together to make a list of how her life will be better if she loses weight. Maybe this process would help her see the advantages of losing weight.

Next, she may have been discouraged by attempts she has made in the past to lose weight, and they didn’t work. So it may seem impossible. One reason I am documenting everything on YouTube is so that other people can see a plan that really does work, and watch as the weight loss unfolds for a real person. This page lays it out:

Come lose weight yourself!

Hope this helps!

The first three videos are live!

There are now 3 videos available at MBthin.

The first video is a quick, fun obesity quiz, and then explains what this site is about and how you can join in the fun:

The second video helps you admit to your weight problem and commit to solving it by posting your Goal Sheet:

The third video shows you my starting point at 260 pounds, about 100 pounds overweight. You are encouraged to document your starting point as well: